I'm a firm believer in laughter being great for your mental health. That being said, I'm going to share with y'all this hilarious post I stumbled upon from Bolde.com. And when I say "stumbled upon", it's good that you know I mean "read all the stories under the tag 'Single AF'. Guilty. So for this episode of Monday Mental Motivation we are going to laugh as well as see why I chose 23 Pieces of Advice Single Women Can't Stand - How We Really Want to Respond to coincide with the mental health of single women like me. Also.... can I follow the author of this post? She seems awesome. funny,It's pretty laughable that someone I don't even remotely know feels my pain and expresses it verbally the same way I do every time one of these phrases are even mentioned in my general direction. The author's tone for her post is creatively sarcastic and screams "I'm fed up and irritated with your slightly judgy undertone!" And rightly so! Are you even trying to hid your condescension anymore? I have responded to each one of these phrases more times than I'd like to count politely and frankly, you're lucky I just don't say what Halle does. |
I have a few favorites that I "love" hearing: 7. "Stop Being So Picky" - This one I probably hate hearing the most because whenever someone says it to me, it's as if they want me to just go out with whatever (yes...whatever) says "hi" to me first. Sorry I want to be with someone who stimulates ALL of my senses. Sorry I don't want to settle and be unhappy in 20 years. You know what goes through my mind when I hear this phrase?: "you don't deserve to get what your heart desires." So let me just stop you there because my normal response to this is to not respond at all. 4. "Have You Tried Online?" - Yes, and I stand by my original anathema to the stupid fad. I've been hit up by the lizard looking guys, the extremely and disrespectfully forward guys, and the one guy that went further than a few messages ended up ghosting me after a few meet-ups. I'm going to assume somehow, somewhere it's my fault and I'm being too picky. 12. "You're Never Going To Meet Someone Sitting In Your Apartment" - My mother is the worst culprit of this one! I get it. Staying within a routine day-in-and-day-out only affords me to see the same guys that I've already written off. But believe me when I say I will not go to a bar by myself or any kind of speed dating JUST to find a guy. I believe in the organic magical meeting. What can I say I'm a romantic! One expression I'd love to add to Halle's refreshing take is when my mom says that I "should wear makeup more and dress to impress, you never know who you might see." Okay, let me just spend hours globbing on pore clogging foundation and weird color eye shadows before I squeeze into a barely breathable outfit. If I meet and hit it off with a guy, he should see how I truly am. And if I don't feel comfortable and secure, I'm sure he'd pick up on that right away! |
connection,
There's something that goes through the mind of a woman who hears these phrases coming at her from all sides. For one, I'm dealing with enough trying to figure out if I'm the problem. I put myself through a lot mentally - as I'm sure other's in my predicament do, too - with lots of "why's" and "what if's". My confidence is going through the ringer enough as it is. So in order for me to take care of my mental health, just stop, keep your face to yourself and realize that it's hard enough out here without your unsolicited advice. |
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Tammara
3/18/2019 12:38:46 pm
Doesn’t matter anyone’s opinion on your standards your guy will come. 😀 keep up the good work on your postings.
Stay Awesome and Be Blessed
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Courtney
3/28/2019 06:13:04 pm
Thank you for the continued support! Love ya!
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Jackie Johnson
3/28/2019 08:09:41 pm
Your guy is coming! I’ll dance at your wedding!
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